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So, I spent some time yesterday thinking about Hoffman and
why his addiction and death surprised me so much. Other public figures have
succumbed to addiction and, while their deaths felt tragic and unnecessary,
they weren’t this much of a shock to me. I guess I think first of Amy
Winehouse. She was inarguably an incredibly talented singer who had achieved
great commercial success and critical acclaim. But her struggles with substance
abuse were as well-known as her beehive and eyeliner. I was sad to hear of her
overdose death, but I was not shocked.
So what was it about Hoffman’s death that left me standing
frozen, mouth agape, staring in shock at a tiny TV at the gym?
I think it was that my impression of Hoffman was that he was
one of the few in his field who were not only wildly talented, but also widely
respected by fans, critics, and fellow actors alike. He didn’t seem to be in it
for the celebrity, the parties, the fancy houses, the vacations, or the babes—and
he somehow kept his private life mostly private. I’ve been known to check out
celebrity magazines and websites, and I rarely saw him discussed or
photographed there. He seemed to be a down-to-earth guy who took his craft very
seriously.
In short, he didn’t “look” to me like an addict.
And in realizing that, I realized that along with my shock I
was a little ashamed. Because in my mind, I “knew” what addicts look like. I
mean, I knew enough to know that they don’t always look like the scruffy,
strung-out homeless guy on the corner. But I figured that they were obvious,
like Amy Winehouse. And, of course, this isn’t true. Anyone, anywhere could be
wrestling with any number of demons and seem—on the outside—to be just “fine.” This
goes for celebrities, but also for the rest of us “regular” people too.
So I guess the lesson I’m taking away from all this is to
try even harder to be gentle with people. The slow driver ahead of me in the
fast lane, the distracted grocery store clerk, the unfriendly receptionist at
the pediatrician’s office: It could be that they are all just jerks—but it’s
unlikely. And while it’s also unlikely that they are all heroin addicts, it’s
quite possible that they are facing some struggle I can’t begin to know. And
who knows, maybe the kindness I show them will be paid forward to someone else.
Lovely! Very well put!
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DeleteI have no idea who this man is, but he looks sort of familiar. We've been called to a particular area of my city several times for drug overdose deaths and almost all of the people we've found stooped over dead in the Jack in the Box restroom or nearby alley were white, middle class young people who were probably pretty innocuous normally. While I can't get on board with not being mean to the slow driver in the fast lane, I do love the idea of being nice to everybody else!
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DeleteYes, yes and yes. My feelings exactly. Something about his death felt closer to home because he seem like an everyday person.
ReplyDeleteExactly. And it turns out, there are increasing numbers of "everyday" people turning to heroin. Scary.
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